Relationship Resource Center

Mary Simon, PsyD  Lic. Clinical Psychologist

I believe that, although we usually don’t have a choice about whether pain comes into our lives and our relationships, we do have the ability to choose whether it becomes “stuck pain” or “growing pain.” For over 30 years, I have been helping clients learn how to use the pain that comes into their lives to grow into happier, more mature, more alive human beings. From this place they can also create healthier, more deeply loving relationships.

As the granddaughter of a suffragette, I have always been interested in women’s wisdom and women’s needs. Especially in the last ten years, I have been focusing on understanding the differential issues women and men face in relationships and how to help them meet these challenges. I have written several articles on these topics. ( view our collection of articles under the “Articles” tab).

John Mariner, MSSA  Lic. Clinical Social Worker

For over 30 years as a philosopher and licensed psychotherapist, I have counseled couples and individuals on their journeys of awakening and growth.  I have led men’s groups and facilitated couples’ workshops for the last 15 years. I have many years of experience with stepfamilies – both personally and professionally, and this is one of my main areas of expertise. I have been deeply committed all along to my own psychological and spiritual work in all of my relationships – in my marriage of over thirty years, with my children, my colleagues and my friends. As a result, I am an exceptionally qualified guide on many levels, for couples and individuals who find themselves depressed, anxious or confused by the challenges of their life’s journey.

I believe there is a continuum of awakening and growth, starting with our basic human needs and evolving into the farther reaches of human nature. However, this conscious evolution is neither easy nor guaranteed. It is important to realize when we are stuck or struggling in our lives and to seek the appropriate counsel and support to help us evolve and grow.

Howard Lambert, PhD   Lic. Clinical Psychologist

I see conflict as opportunity in life.  Pain is often an invitation to growth.  An experienced guide is what we most need to capture the moment and turn our “lemons into lemonade.”

I have been in a men’s group for over 20 years. One weekend we took the time to allow each man to tell his life’s story … any way he chose to.  What became exceedingly clear over those 24 hours was that the greatest growth in most of our lives followed immediately after the deepest pain (i.e. death, divorce, separation, illness, etc.).

If you are in pain let me help you feel it, move with it and allow it to guide you to the next chapter in your life.  The Buddha said that it is not the pain of life that causes us to suffer; it is the way we constrict and resist the pain that gets us stuck.

For 40 years I have been assisting men, women and couples on their paths to happiness. The work is hard and the rewards are great. I use many different kinds of therapy in my practice as I do not believe that “one style fits all.”

Let’s sit down and have a conversation.  I can often give you concrete guidance to help you start to change your life right from our first meeting.  If you chose not to work with me after the first visit I will not charge you for the session.

On the personal side: I have scaled all of the state’s 14,000 foot peaks, I love to ski moguls, I get great joy from my four grandchildren and I relax by playing blues on my  Gibson SJ-200.  Also I have become a competent horseman in the last four years.

Roslyn Cantrell, PhD  Lic. Marriage & Family Therapist

“When you do your work, it is a gift you give yourself – a gift you can give away,
but nobody can take it away from you.”
– Roz Cantrell

I believe in the possibility of just about anything. Over the past 25 years in private practice, I have been amazed to witness what life has to offer for those willing to do their work. Through the years, my clients have shown me that anything can happen.

I am compassionately aware of the difficulty in creating change in one’s life, even when we so desperately desire it. I believe that change occurs within the zone of “optimal pain.” If there isn’t enough pain, then we are complacent and have no need or want to change. When there is too much pain, our life becomes chaotic and overwhelming, and we feel paralyzed. It is in this zone of “optimal pain” where people are willing and able to change, and I am here to help.

Perhaps you, like many of my clients, are already an expert in what’s not working. That’s why I believe we just need to increase the options in our repertoire, and to add tools and skills to create the life that we long for.

I work with individuals, couples, and families to move from a chapter of survival, into a chapter of living and thriving. My approach is gentle, but firm. Integrating a variety of methodologies, I seek to support my clients through a collaborative process of getting their head, heart and gut on the same page.

A student myself, I continue my journey of learning, healing, and growing. Even after 25 years in practice, I am still committed to doing my own work. I believe that if I’m asking you to do your work, then I better be doing mine. My compassion and empathy for those around me, and my deep belief that we are all connected fuel my practice.

I encourage you to embark on the next chapter of your life. If you are looking for an animated and collaborative approach to change, healing, and growth, please contact me and let’s get started on this incredible journey.